What a wonderful conversation we had with Anya Sizer this week about adopted teens. It was great to hear her lived experience on a subject that clearly resonated with many of you.

Anya shared her heart-warming story of when her young family adopted their third child. Her openness was astonishing at times, she spoke of some of the cliff-edges and potholes they have navigated through; how she has learned to be proactive in asking for help, and how they have adapted their parenting style to meet the very different needs of their adopted son.

There is still plenty of research being published about the effects of the pandemic on society as a whole. Another study came out this week, looking at the impact on the mental health of our children. It found what many of us know already…it really doesn’t matter how much money you earn or how big your garden is, anyone can be affected. This research concluded that traditionally advantaged groups of children had the biggest drop in mental health during the pandemic, compared to those from disadvantaged backgrounds.

Researchers speculated that increased social isolation and a reduction in services may have been contributing factors. It’s not a surprise but how do we reverse the effects?

“You are not your eating disorder”

I think that is such a powerful statement and it came from our guests Dr Bryony Bamford and Cliona Brennan, who joined us for this week’s discussion about eating issues.

I wouldn’t normally mention this, but I have had an eating disorder. I was a teenager at the time and, back in the late 80’s, I felt some pressure to be slim. I recognise that, for me, I needed some control during a time of my life when everything seemed to be changing so rapidly.

A friend has just started encouraging her 9 year old to have a bit more independence. He’s now allowed to go to the nearby garden centre and buy milk. He’s a hardy perennial so he’s taken to the new found freedom with great gusto. Mum’s now worried that it’s all happening a bit too quickly for her liking and that’s half the battle….wanting them to have independence but then worrying that they might not have the common sense to always do the ‘right thing’.

And teaching them to cope with risk and choices in the safest and most informed way was the focus of this week’s conversation.

Social media is currently swamped with back to school photos. The different platforms are full of children looking like they’re ready for the new term, and many are, but a snap shot can be deceptive. We’d all like our young people to feel prepared, but the return to the classroom and the settling in period can be a very difficult time for some.